Someone once told me that a relationship shouldn’t be built around ones’ occupation.
But here’s the exception.
From the moment I wake up to the time I go to sleep I have to deal with “army life”
Whether that be driving on base, to getting a piece of mail, or receiving a phonecall from overseas. It’s everywhere. All day. Everyday.
Unless you’ve been associated with this so called lifestyle for quite some time, it can seem a bit overwhelming and down right annoying sometimes.
to me it is anyway.
No one ever told me the ‘secret’ to making it easier, because I didn’t know anyone that knew the ‘secrets’
water proof mascara and zzz-quil will now and always will be something you will NEED to keep handy
Sounds funny right?
Especially with deployment, emotional days, or even just emotional hours will come. You’ll find yourself tearing up and the water works coming for the smallest reasons, and sometimes, literally no reason at all.
Sleepless nights are a regular thing, and the little extra forced sleepiness is a must.
most military spouses, and s/o’s are your friends for the wrong reasons, or not really your friends at all
girls will be girls. but it seems to me that military wives, spouses and whatever else you want to call them are a breed of their own.
Coming into all of this, Taylor and I were really accepting of the fact that we needed to surround ourselves with people who understand, and who also are experiencing the same issues we are. Meeting new people and branching out of our comfort zone is hard for anyone, but it seems like you throw the military into it and you’re in middle school all over again. You learn quick that either they are awesome or awful. there is no inbetween. Picking and choosing who you associate yourself with is extremely important, and picking and choosing what you say and act like becomes even more important. You learn quick you can not confide in someone just because our other half have similar occupations.
Just because someone has experienced what you have, doesn’t make you friends, and just because they have been there and done that doesn’t mean you want to take advice and handle the future situations like they would/have.
frg groups aren’t all that wonderful
I was bound and determined to be part of the frg group for Taylor’s unit. I found out quick that all it is, is an email list that doesn’t inform you of much, I’ve gotten more information from my solider himself, than the group.
army balls are prom, for women 25-50+
This was a huge shock. It was fun, and it’s always a good time when you get to dress up, but the amount of cleavage and leg I saw on grown women was astonishing. Keeping it modest is a thing of the past, obviously..
being a ‘milso’ isn’t a good thing
Regardless, if you’re in a relationship with a military man, you’re technically a milso, but to claim that as a title is not a good thing. at first I thought it was. wrong. It’s a very derogatory term that’s overused and abused. Commonly associated with women who are with military men for the wrong reasons.
if you can’t avoid being one, you can at least avoid calling yourself one
Either way, we are all linked by our other half’s job, now whether you’re awesome or awful is up to you.